When family disputes arise, it can feel overwhelming to navigate the next steps. Whether you're dealing with child arrangements, financial disagreements, or other separation-related issues, mediation is often the first step toward resolution. Before beginning the mediation process, you need to attend a Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting (MIAM).
A MIAM is a key part of the family dispute resolution process, and understanding how to prepare can help you feel more confident and in control. Here’s what you need to know about MIAMs, why they are important, and how to get the most out of your session.
What is a MIAM?
A MIAM is the first step in the family mediation process. It’s a one-to-one meeting with an accredited family mediator (either online or face to face) to:
Explain how mediation works.
Assess whether mediation is suitable for your situation.
Discuss your concerns and what you hope to achieve.
Explore your options for sorting things out.
The MIAM is also a legal requirement for most people before applying to the court for orders such as child arrangements or financial settlements, unless an exemption applies.
What Happens During a MIAM?
During the meeting, the mediator will:
Listen to Your Concerns: You’ll have the chance to explain the issues you’re facing, such as disputes over parenting schedules or property division.
Provide Information: The mediator will explain the mediation process, how it can help, and what to expect if you proceed.
Assess Suitability: Not all situations are appropriate for mediation, such as cases involving domestic abuse or safeguarding concerns. The mediator will evaluate whether mediation is a good fit for your case.
Confirm Legal Aid Eligibility (If Applicable): If you’ve already undergone a Legal Aid assessment before the MIAM, the mediator will double-check the details with you to ensure everything is in order.
Signpost Next Steps: If mediation is suitable, you’ll discuss how to arrange your first session. If not, the mediator can discuss alternate options and provide you with the appropriate documentation to proceed with court applications if requested.
How to Prepare for Your MIAM
1. Gather Relevant Information
It’s helpful to bring any documents or details that relate to your situation, such as:
A list of the issues you’d like to resolve (e.g., parenting schedules, financial disputes).
Basic financial information, such as property information, income and pensions (if applicable).
Any relevant legal or court documents.
Having this information ready will help the mediator understand your case and guide you effectively.
2. Understand the Legal Aid Process
If you think you might qualify for Legal Aid, your eligibility will be assessed before the MIAM. You will need to provide:
Your National Insurance Number.
Proof of income or benefits (e.g., recent payslips, Universal Credit statements).
Information about any capital held, such as property or savings.
At the MIAM, the mediator will check the assessment with you and confirm your Legal Aid eligibility as appropriate.
3. Know What You Want to Achieve
Before your MIAM, take some time to think about:
What outcomes you’re hoping for.
What’s most important to you (e.g., children’s needs, financial security).
Any potential compromises you’d be willing to consider.
This clarity will help you communicate your goals during the session.
4. Understand Your Options
The mediator will explain how mediation works, but it’s worth familiarising yourself with the process beforehand. Mediation is not about “winning” or “losing” but finding practical solutions that work for everyone involved.
4. Prepare Emotionally
Family disputes can be emotional, and it’s normal to feel anxious before a MIAM.
Take some time to relax and gather your thoughts.
Remember, the mediator’s role is to provide a safe, neutral space for you to explore options.
The Role of a MIAM in Resolving Family Disputes
Attending a MIAM is not just a legal requirement; it’s also an opportunity to find a more amicable way to resolve conflicts. Unlike court proceedings, which can be adversarial, mediation focuses on:
Collaboration and mutual understanding.
Solutions tailored to your family’s unique needs.
Reducing stress and fostering better communication.
For many families, mediation is a faster, more affordable, and less stressful alternative to going to court.
Why Choose Pax Mediation?
At Pax Mediation, we understand how difficult family disputes can be. That’s why all our mediators are FMCA-accredited family mediators, committed to providing professional, compassionate support throughout the mediation process.
What sets us apart:
Experience: Over 50 years of combined mediation expertise.
Child-Centred Approach: We focus on what’s best for your family, particularly your children.
Efficiency: Next-day appointments for MIAMs are available, with same-day court certification when needed.
Frequently Asked Questions
Do I Have to Attend a MIAM? Yes, in most cases, attending a MIAM is a legal requirement before applying to court. There are some exemptions, such as some cases involving child protection and domestic abuse.
What If Mediation Isn’t Suitable? If mediation isn’t appropriate for your case, the mediator will provide you with the necessary documentation (e.g., a signed C100 form) to proceed with court applications if requested. Learn more about C100 forms here.
How Long Does a MIAM Last? A MIAM typically takes around 45 minutes.
Take the First Step Toward Resolution
Preparing for your MIAM is the first step toward resolving family disputes constructively and collaboratively. At Pax Mediation, we’re here to guide you through the process with professionalism and care.
📞 Call us: 0800 058 4303
📧 Email us: admin@paxmediation.co.uk
Let’s work together to create a path forward for your family.
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