Going through a divorce or separation can be one of the hardest times in a person’s life. A lot of people faced with difficult issues may be tempted to stick their head in the sand. They struggle to cope and one way of dealing, and processing is to pretend it’s not happening, or be in complete denial.
There are lots of ways of processing divorce, and denial is one of them. Unfortunately, the practical aspect of getting divorced involves making lots of decisions such as what are we going to do with our joint account, where are we going to live, where are the children going to live, how do we tell the children about our separation etc. Ignoring these decisions does not make them go away and can sometimes make things worse, for example debt can increase or the conflict with the other party can get worse.
Family mediation can support people to process their separation. It is flexible, it works at their pace and can help them tackle these decisions one step at a time. Our mediators listen to clients, support brainstorming of different options, ‘reality-test’ these options and then make a record of decisions. Mediation can be a difficult process for those in denial as it takes their head out of that sand and into the reality of their situation. However, mediators do so kindly and with empathy and support. And isn’t it best to move forward and get things sorted as soon as possible? Mediation is a great way of doing this.